Saturday, March 21, 2009

When To Get A Divorce

When To Get A Divorce

If you would like to get a divorce there are many things that you need to consider first.

The first thing that you need to consider is your family. Do you have children? If so you really should reconsider. The only legitimate reason to get a divorce if there are children involved is physical abuse of either the spouse, the children or both. If there is physical abuse in your relationship, get out now and get help, but most importantly get your children out. There are safe houses that you can contact and they will help you. They will literally send someone over to pick up you and your kids and take you to a safe environment.

If there is not physical abuse but there are one or more children, divorce should not be an option for you. No matter how much of a pain in the behind your spouse is, your children need two parents. Both mothers and fathers are critical in the upbringing of children. You will damage severely and possibly destroy your child's life if you take away one of their parents. There are adults that are still suffering the effects of their parents divorce. Do not do this to your children. Studies have shown that even the most incompetent parent is better than no parent.

Once you are divorced you will have no control over what happens to your children when they are with your ex-spouse. This means that they will be exposed to boyfriends, girlfriends, possibly stepparents and step brothers and sisters.

Another thing to consider when you want to get a divorce is your financial status. A divorce normally means that you will still have the same income but you will need to maintain two households and other costs such as attorneys. If your marital problems are based on financial problems, a divorce certainly will not help it.

You will want to review your property before looking into a divorce. In most states the marital assets will be divided in half unless the property was acquired before the marriage in some cases. You may have to sell your house and divide the proceeds or buy the other spouses share of the home. This division of assets can be very difficult and many times the results are not good for either party.

If you divorce will be going through no matter what or is against your wishes, make sure you hire yourself a great attorney and try to stay friendly with your ex-spouse no matter how hard you need to bite your lip.

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